Some days require more patience than others. When emotions are flaring and self-management is fleeting, push the pause button. Visualize pressing a button to stop, breathe and take inventory. In these few seconds, you have a chance to note where you are and what you want. Pausing gives an opportunity to stay active instead of reactive to people and/or situations. Remaining active and present allows for more possibilities in responses. Increasing chances for a better outcome.
Sometimes it’s tricky to decipher what is active (present and calm enough) or reactive (anxiety driven). Below is a flow chart for clarity.